So, you think you or your husband is gay or a Crossdresser.

Not really. All that counts is your happiness and the least harm done to others. We all know that family, especially wives, can be horribly hurt and confused when faced with the reality of our sexuality. When I say "our" I mean you, me, and other transgendered people. Transgender covers everyone, bisexual, gay, lesbian, tranvestite, transsexual and on and on. Yes, in case you did not realize it, I too am a transgendered person.

Mistress Cinamon is a genetic female and has no desire to become a male. At least not physically and dress like one...Yuk! I am one of the most feminine women you will ever meet. I just like certain, shall we say, aspects of having a cock :) Call me at 775-232-3189 for a little talk.

Clarification: A Transsexual is a person who is going to have a sex change operation or has already had a sex change operation.

The reason I am writing this little blurb is because I have noticed a lot of my callers asking me if it is "okay" to be want things that are not run of the mill for a man. I always tell them it is okay, because it is. Everyone deserves what makes them happy. As long as it is Sane, Safe, and Consensual of course.

This little piece is also my bid for education of the masses and I have already had two letters asking me if I used to be a man. NO. But maybe in another life :)

Through out history and right up to today, people are hurt or killed for being different. Even if their differentness hurts no one they can be ridiculed, ostracized, discriminated against, and the list marches on.

I don't like to label people and put them in little boxes, but perhaps the following will be of help to you. Take a look at some of the definations below and see if you can recognize yourself or perhaps a phase you have already passed through.

Sumissive Males, Macho Men, and Crossdressers

Andrew - usually young, between 20 and 35, in love with the thought of

Mommy spanking him,taking his temperture, a thinly veiled desire when using the older friend of Mommy's or the neighbor lady. Doesn't usually dress.

Marcus - usually 31 to 39, has significant other that plays with him a litttle, but she is not quite dominant enough, or he just can't get enough. Wears her clothes sometimes.

Nick - Nick's are rare, they are macho type men, and take pleasure in any type of sex primarily with women and sometimes men. Not afraid of their sexuality. Nicks can have everything up to and including a dungeon. Sometimes Even likes panties to play with.

Mickey - Practically every man is a Mickey at least once a month. Even Archie Bunker secretly fantasized about Edith taking control in the boudoir at least once. All men like a woman to occasionally take the initiative in the bedroom.

Arnold - in denial of his sexuality. He is usually 40 years old, or near it. He has found he enjoys the thought of a woman anally penetrating him. And is too embarrassed to ask for it. Usually a solo person. Never dresses, feels fearful playing with toys. Very common.

Henry - usually over 45 and has figured out what he wants, and is not afraid to ask me for it. If a Henry is handsome and self assured, he can have women showing up on dates with him with a dildo and purse full of panties. Likes to be jacked off with panties, occasional panty wearer.

Frank - Same as Henry, only married and in love with a wife that used to play with him. She has pulled a dirty trick and stopped playing with panties and the like. Usually over 40. Probably likes to dress a little.

Freddie - this gentlemen likes boys, but loves to talk dirty and tell "Mommy" all about his excursions to gay bars etc...

Fredrick - same as above, just with a cleaner act. Almost always married and in the closet.

Jerald - fears the fact he is a little bisexual and is undecided about everything. Usually a crossdresser, accelerating at a rate that he finds alarming, starting on make-up. Any age- but more prevelant in mid to late thirties.

Charles - usually a supervisor or owner of a small business. This gent is under a lot of stress and needs to give up control for an hour to reduce the incredible stess he is under. Wears panties occasionally.

Chase - A Charles with a twist. Can also be blended with any of the above, Chase likes to be spanked, bound and dominated, humiliated, enjoys corporal punishent and tease and denial.

Robert - Robert is just your run of the mill BDSMer. Robert is a submissive and Dominate Ladies can dress him up and humiliate him, but he is just along for the ride. He's looking for pain. Not really one of us.

Transvestites, Transsexuals, Transgender, and the ever Popular, Shemale (pre-op transsexual)

Georgia - has not chosen a girl name, but during times of feeling feminine will transform his own name. Lives in dread of discovery. Romantic, in touch with his feminine side, and knows that it makes him more popular with the ladies. Quite often in total denial. Can be very popular with the ladies if confident and smart. A little TG.

Veronica - Very much in the closet, a woman trapped in a man's body. Never know it to look at her, but she is usually shaved, taking loving care of herself in the tub, and generally enjoys women as well as another Veronica if she can find one. TG.

Winifred - Half way out of the closet, this rare bird just goes her merry way, letting people wonder and not concerned about it. Prefers women, but does not consider herself a lesbian. We can only wish for more. TS.

Leanna - This is a difficult person who just hasn't been able to decide much and is often combative, getting her/him no where with anyone. Hopefully time and talking to support groups and perhaps some fantasizing will help him. TG,TS.

Stephanie Ah yes, Steffie; Stef has already made her decision, she often lives alone. Many Steffies have a hard time passing, sometimes size, age, and money have prevented them from making the physical changes they desire... but everything else is changed - up to and including the "F" on her drivers license, even if she has not had surgery to clinically make her a female. She is, to all intents and purposes, a woman. Never over done, comfortable in her choice, and living the life she wants. Her preferences in a mate vary. TG

Sheyenne - Ah yes, she is the stuff dreams are made out of, wet, hand jerking dreams. You catch a glimpse of her out of the corner of your eye, she looks a little harsh, but the aroma of sex just oozes off her, you're very aroused by her and when you find out she's a woman in every way except between her legs - it's way too late... You are caught. Female impersonators, shemales. Almost always prefer men or other Sheyennes. TS

Candy - Almost everyone is familiar with Candy, too much make-up, usually a little overweight, outrageous wigs, and tight colorful clothing, Candy is labeled as a Transvestite. She doesn't pass, she doesn't care, and she has been saving for her operation for ever. She will probably never have the operation because she is always buying more feather boas and likes the pleasure her cockette still brings her. Candies biggest assest is she is almost always a caring and sweet person. TV

Suzette - Suzette's are extremely rare. They are the fortunate ones who knew who they were early on, had the operation young, and no one can tell they were not originally a woman. Rumour has it that one of the Bond Girls was a Suzette. TG

Next month we'll be looking at the whys of our sexuality. Why me, why now?